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Unlucky In Love: I have a good face and a good body and I have tried to get a girl friend but no one likes me. What should I do? Is there any girl for me in this world or I have no luck in love? |
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Well, it all begins at home, so maybe you should look at yourself in the mirror and do a swot analysis and write down your strengths and weaknesses and try and improve on your weaknesses. Girls nowadays like their guys to be muscled, yet sensitive, and have a good sense of humour. An ability to cook and look after them are also important as is a good career. It will help as well if you have a good car and money. But it's not all material ... maybe you need to look at your grooming, the way you dress and carry yourself, the way you talk, can you have a decent conversation? ... the way you dance ... maybe you smoke too much, it could be anything. So look at yourself and see what can be improved ... and as they say in ads on tv, the results could surprise even you. |
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Sweet Memories Are All I Have Left: Love Guru, I have a problem. I like this guy. Well I fell in love with him but he didn't treat me well at times. Now we have broken up and I am finding it so hard to forget him. Everywhere I turn I see the sweet memories. I even stopped going to our hangouts but it looks like this guy will always be on my mind. I love him so much that each waking moment is for him. I hope he reads this and knows that I will never stop thinking about him. Memories are all I have of him and he can't take that away from me ever. Pls help me as I am totally lost. |
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Girl, you can only be helped if you help yourself. He has moved on and so should you. It's nice to have sweet memories, but remember the bad times as well. You yourself say he didn't treat you well so whatever has happened may be happening for the best in the long term. Breaking up is hard, but it is even harder if you are going to sit around waiting for him to read this posting and hope he calls you. Move on, and that's as nicely as one can put it. |
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We Fight Over His Kids: I have been married for six years now and have beautiful children. My husband had previous kids from previous relationship which most of the time causes an argument between myself & him. Sometimes he goes to see them without my knowledge which of course hurts me a lot and him not telling me yet others or my family informing me. I asked him, @ first he denied and later admitted that he went there because of the kids. Is this the way my children & I will live? Can you help me? |
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Well, if you stop him from seeing his kids, he will still see them behind your back. The most evil of men, the ones who beat up their wives, etc, will still do anything for their kids. So it is better that you two talk it over, or discuss with a mutual friend or counsellor, and allow him certain time to see his kids - maybe not at his ex-partner's house. Sometimes maybe invite the kids to your home. After all, they are kids. People nowadays are adopting kids they had nothing to do with bringing into this world so why not embrace step-brothers and step-sisters? Who knows, maybe you and your husband will understand each other better and your relationship will become stronger. |
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The Advice Seems To Help: Thanks Love Guru for all the wonderful advice you give to us. Well it seems to help so a big thank you. Keep up the good work ... looks like you need a holiday to get away from all of us. Please do that. Love. |
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Glad to be of help. |
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My Broken Heart Hurts: Why does a broken heart hurt so much? Every waking moment you think of your loved one and think what went wrong. I love my sweet babe so much that it hurts so much. I am trying to get on with my life but every waking moment it is him I think of and nothing else. How do I overcome this issue which looks like it has no future. Help pls. |
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Well, it is going to continue to hurt if you sit around and wait and pine for a love and a relationship that in your own words "looks like has no future". Best you try to be with people most of the time esp friends who are understanding of your situation, rather than sit at home alone and be depressed and sad. Try to focus on your work and career and find other interests and pursue them. Best not to be lonely as you will only think of what could have been. And most of all, try not to go to the same places you both used to frequent - nothing that will bring back memories .. in this case they will be painful. Move on ... there will be better times ahead. |
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