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He Likes Me As A Friend: I love a boy since I was in primary school but he likes me as a friend. What should I do? |
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That's a long time to wait. You should have moved on by now as he has made his views quite clear to you. |
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Should I Ask Her For A Bigger Commitment: I live in Fiji and she lives in Canada. We are in love from last 20 years. She was my first love. We planned to go to and settle in Canada. She made it and I couldn't. She couldn't forget me and we were in constant touch ever since. She cares for me till today and even supports me financially if I am sick. She tells me to go the doctor. I listen to her. She wakes me up in the morning. She tells me what to do and I do it happily. She calls me every day. When she comes to Fiji I go around with her holidaying. I am divorced and she is married. I do not want her to ruin her family because I really love her. Her husband is very busy and hardly has any time with her. She also loves him. Please guru, tell me what should I do. Should I ask her to ask him for a divorce or should I be happy with her just like this and be with her forever? |
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Yes, you have every right to ask her for a bigger commitment especially after 20 years, but why haven't you done it so far? Are you scared you might lose her altogether? Are you happy with the current arrangement where you get to share her with her husband? Despite everything she does for you, you do say however that she says she also loves 'him'. So she may not be prepared to leave him especially because you may have just left it too late. She is getting the best of both worlds - she has her Canadian world and when she gets sick of that, there is always you. In the end, the choice is yours to make - be happy with what you have now or are you prepared to walk away if she says no? |
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I Love My Cousin: I love one boy who says he also loves me. But his family wants him to marry another girl because they do not know about me. That boy is my mum's sister's son. |
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Very few families will allow their children to marry such close relatives, especially first cousins for cultural and genetic/medical reasons. Best you let him go although I hope he likes the girl and is not just marrying the girl because his family says so. He shouldn't ruin her life. |
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Should I Give Him A Chance: I have this friend of mine. We've been friends from secondary school but not as best friends or something like that. After school we met each in USP but it was friendship only ... no other intentions or anything. We used to play cards, hang out, movies, few drinks with our friends. We always hung out with our group of friends. All of a sudden he started txting me and I did reply. He had this crush on me but I never used to see him from other prospects apart from as a friend. OK just recently two weeks ago he txted me saying '"hi wat's up?" I didn't bother to reply then again he txted me saying "are u too bzi to reply or u don't wanna talk?" so I replied him that I was not well so couldn't reply on time. So from there we started to have a small txt conversation. He asked me whether I'm single or booked? I told him I'm single but not ready for any commitments coz I don't want stress in life. He replied that he didn't ask for a commitment or he will not be a stress in my life. Well by nature he is nice guy, established with a good job, only son in the family, quite rich. Just in the past two days I was thinking about him wondering what to do? Just a note when back in uni I used to date this guy and he knew everything that I had an affair and we went clubbing and he was also there and he saw us. So what shall I do Guru, give him a chance? |
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Well, from all that you tell me, he seems to have been waiting for you for a long, long time. That alone should qualify him for a chance especially as you are single. However despite everything, I would always advise to go slow, get to know him really well before you commit. Remember, rich only sons usually come with their own sets of problems. |
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Our Love Has Been Rekindled: We were first lovers. Then life took her away to greener pastures and she got married and has a kid now. She couldn't forget me and I couldn't either. She came looking for me several times but she never found me till last year when we met. From then on our romance started again. We came to a point that we can't stay without each other. Now she calls me 5 times a day and emails me and I do the same. We are both married. Can you advise us what to do guru? |
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The fact that you two have found each other again is great. But remember there are now at least three other people in your lives - one wife, one husband and one kid. If you both truly love each other, are sure that you want to be together - and it is not only lust - and don't love your respective partners, it is very sad, but you have to be honest with them and tell them it is all over - the earlier the better so they can pick up the pieces and rebuild their lives. And it is very important that you both make sure they are both financially taken care off as you two ride off into the sunset. |
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